+angel, 14, china, they/them. personal blog. previously mayanqelou. // This blog is now inactive and any future personal content will be posted on my main blog, linhcindar.
“When I think of the women of Sharp Objects, I think of a 1948 photo by Frederick Sommer, called Livia (the name of the murderous Roman empress). It’s a black-and-white shot of a young girl with all the accoutrements of innocence: Blonde braids, lace-edged dress. But her eyes are startlingly intelligent, her lips stubborn, her whole face mischievous — perhaps malevolent. It’s one of my favorite photos in the world, a reminder that girls — and women — can be bad" - Gillian Flynn
Ever made a list of to-do’s and ended up finishing less than half of it? Maybe this tutorial would help you.
Things you need: Pen, paper, tasks, something with a timer, and patience.
Step 1: Make a huge-ass bucket list of what you want done. List everything and anything.
Step 2: Cross out the currently unimportant ones. Like: Google Benedict Cumberbatch. (Unless you’re actually writing a paper on Benedict Cumberbatch)
Step 3: Line the rest up in order…
Important+Emergent Important+Non-emergent Unimportant+Emergent, and Unimportant+Non-emergent.
Step 4: Take a timer and time yourself on a task. Estimate how long it would take for you to finish, say, a chapter of biology. Then compare with the actual time it took to do so. Don’t worry if there is a huge difference: we could always work on that later. KEEP THE RECORDS.
Step 5: Repeat Step 4 as necessary.
Step 6: When you are done for the day, make a list of things you plan to finish tomorrow. Now that you have actual numbers to work with it should be MUCH easier.
Step 7: Do your best to finish everything the next day. If you find that difficult, take something off the list and try again (and vice versa). Most people find their balance within a week and I bet you will too.
This technique saves a lot of time. You would no longer need to think long and hard about what you should and should not put on your list. Just index your times under their respective categories, add them up, and you’re all set. As an added bonus, you could even try beating your own records!
I took a slight look back on my night guardian sisters “humanoid” form and really wanted to redo them a bit, even thought it’s only been two or three months (and chances are they’ll probably change two or three months further from now, but)
My costume design skills are still lacking but I feel like it’s a slight improvement from my first attempt. I really loved doing the hair haha.
I’m really tired of seeing people broken up into labels of absolutes.
People are not just “good” or “bad”.
People are not a list of labels.
People are complex, situations are complex.
I know, that makes it a lot harder when you want to just write off everything someone’s ever done as bad – but that’s not how people actually are, and it would do everyone good to stop pretending they are.
I am tired of hearing about the fear people have in putting themselves out there. And it is a scary thing! Putting yourself out there means subjecting yourself to people who want a really good reason to tear you down, who will jump at the first chance to feel “good” by labeling someone else as “bad”.
I reject this. I reject the idea that there should be fear in speaking up and talking about experiences and trying to reach an understanding of a situation.
I’m unhappy to see people spitefully urging others to cut off ties with their friends under the guise of “well, that person’s just inherently bad, so if you talk to them you’re bad too.” That is fucked up. You definitely have the right to let the friend know you don’t want to hear about whoever troubles you, but you do not at all have the right to decide who their friends should be. This includes guilt trips.
Anyway, just try to be more aware of others. Everyone else is a person like you. They might not have the same experiences as you. They might not understand how their words are harmful, or how what they’re doing is wrong. They certainly won’t if you never tell them.
Most people are trying to be good, but they’re going to mess it up sometimes. Try to keep that in mind. Even when people do really fucked up shit, sometimes they are trying to do good. “The road to hell is paved with good intentions” and all that.
Nothing gets solved, no growth happens when you put people into a box from which you’ll never let them escape.
Yes, you absolutely must be careful about people who have tendencies and patterns that are harmfulto you. Sometimes people try to overcome those patterns and they fail, and you have to distance yourself from them: that is the sad reality of life. Sometimes though, they can overcome it. But they certainly won’t if the first thing you do is write them off after a fuck up.
Be sincere. Use your best judgment.
For a long time I rode the “they said something hurtful so they’re a bad person” train, and it’s still something I’m working on. Right now, I take those statements as a gentle heads-up and proceed as normal to make my own judgments. Seems to be working out okay.